Learning the hard way

You can’t change a PERSON, you can only change YOURSELF or the SITUATION your in. You can alter YOUR thoughts, insecurities, actions and reactions, you also have the option of changing the situation your in, you can add or remove factors that influence certain things. But it is probably one of the biggest mistakes you can make to try and intentionally change someone. It takes years for us as individuals to get to that point in our lives where we know exactly who we want to be and where we want to be. If another were to come into your life, your bubble and to try and rearrange your settings, that would definitely cause a conflict of interest. That brings about doubt on both ends (what am I doing wrong, what are they doing wrong) One of the worst things a person can feel is doubt. It’s a fictitious emotion that runs on nothing but fear, and fear is based on the unknown. So to react based on an empty emotion is unnecessary.
Instead, as mentioned above, the wiser choice would be to adjust the factors that you do have control over, and again, that is YOURSELF or the SITUATION. Another important thing is to communicate. I’ve always used this example of communication. It may seem a little out there but its relatively accurate when it comes to any kind of relationship.
Now we all drive (if you don’t im sure you’ll still understand) we’re all sitting in these metal boxes. We can’t see each other nor can we hear each other when we’re in our own vehicle. Our only form of communication is our indicators (you know those lights that flash to indicate if your going left or right)..ya those things. If we don’t use that very important source of communication, we risk a catastrophe each and every single time.
The same applies to any relationship. You can’t know what I’m thinking unless I show you or tell you (communicate with you) you will never know my intention or direction unless it’s made clear by indicating. To assume that someone knows exactly what it is you want, or how your feeling is insanity. Not even a psychic can tell what your thoughts or feelings are, they can only tell you what has already happened and the future they interpret for you.
We all have control over our lives (of course with a lot of help from God) for the most part; we are our own biggest influences. We create environments, ideas and theories for ourselves. We don’t create people thus; it’s not our job to change them. I can change any and everything I want to about myself, we all can, most of the time we don’t think we’re the ones needing adjustment. It’s so much easier to point a finger and say “You change NOW” but that’s not the way the world works. The healthy thing to do is gather all your rational thoughts (throw the other ones away) and weigh out your options, which change will have the greatest impact,YOU or the SITUAION!!

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this is Miss Miller- My favorite cousin in cousinland-She always makes everything better! no matter what. I Love this one!